July 25, 2024 by riverside

Helping Littles One Settle In: Our Five Top Tips for Easing Separation Anxiety

Hello Parents,

We know that starting nursery is a big step for both you and your little one. It’s also completely normal for children (and you!) to feel a bit anxious when they first start, but don’t worry we’re here to help. The Riverside Day Nursery’s team of hands-on, experienced child carers has put together some top tips to soften the transition and make future drop-offs a breeze!

1. Gradual Introduction to the Nursery

Introduce nursery into your routine gradually. Start with short visits where you stay with them. For example, we offer up to five settling in sessions over two weeks. You can stay for the first session for anywhere between one to three hours, depending on how comfortable your little one feels. Gradually increase the duration of your visits but spend less time in the room each time. This will help your little one build familiarity and security in the new setting.

Also, know that it’s completely normal for children to get upset at drop off, especially in the first few weeks but it will get better!

2. Regular Goodbye Routine

Create a consistent, comforting goodbye routine. This might be a special hug, goodbye phrase, or a reassuring activity that is the same each time. Also, reinforce that you will be coming back to collect them. Making this routine consistent will let your little one know what to expect, reducing anxiety.

3. Comfort Items

Let your child bring a comfort item from home, such as a favourite blanket or stuffed animal (make sure it has your child’s name on it!). Familiar items give a sense of security, helping to soothe and comfort them throughout the day.

4. Positive Reinforcement

We get it, drop-off can be stressful, especially in the morning if you have other children to drop-off and/or need to head to work. However hectic, try to keep the journey calm and positive. If tensions are rising, try playing or singing their favourite songs. This will help keep your child’s associations with going to nursery positive.

5. Stay Calm and Patient

It’s important for parents and nursery staff to be calm and understanding, especially early on. Acknowledging your child’s feelings without showing impatience will help build trust.

We’re also here to support new starters and spend time giving them extra comfort and show them interesting activities to distract and settle them. You’ll be amazed how quickly an activity like dress ups or finger painting turns tears to smiles!